Posts by Samuel


Reasons I Wish I Could Get a Dog


Posted By on Feb 15, 2018

When I was in high school, my guidance counselor asked every student to think about what they would spend their time doing if they had one million dollars. The idea seems silly looking back, but the basic concept was to think about what you would want to do if money wasn’t an issue. I asked my dad what he thought, and he told me, “If I could do anything in the world for one million dollars, it would be mowing lawns.” Funny enough, the lawn needed to be mowed, and I think that was his way of telling me to get it done. After thinking about the question all night, the only thing I could come up with was “dogs.” I wasn’t sure what I would do with dogs, but I knew if money weren’t an issue, I would want to spend all of my time with man’s best friend.

I grew up with three fantastic dogs. One golden retriever, a chocolate lab, and a pug. My parents were never crazy about the idea of owning pets, but my brother, sister, and I insisted we each get a dog to add to our family. It took years, but eventually, my parents caved in. It was a great decision, and now I sometimes wonder if my mom loves the dogs more than me. My parents taught us to care for the dogs, and we spent every summer training them to learn new tricks.

I was sad when I left for college and had to leave two of my best buddies behind. My lab, Cocoa, died a few years earlier, but the other two were still full of life. The highlight of my visits home was getting to take the dogs for long walks around the forest behind my parents’ house. There are a few trails back there, and sometimes I would let the dogs off the leash because they were well behaved and full of energy. It warmed my heart to watch them run around, sniffing all the smells and eagerly following each other like siblings.

Now that I live on my own, I keep toying with the idea of getting my own dog. I’ve seen research that suggests having an animal in your life is better for your mental health, but I’m not sure I’m ready for a long-term commitment like owning a pet. I did get pretty far into the logistics of owning a dog, and I even found a company that could walk my dog while I was away. Getting a dog is a tempting idea, but I don’t think my roommates would be too excited.

For now, I’ll have to assuage my yearning for a dog by visiting my parents and seeing Roxy and Bugs. I wish I liked cats more, but they just aren’t the same as a dog. They do the strangest things and freak out for no reason. I would miss going on long walks, and dealing with a litter box does not sound like my cup of tea. Instead, I’ll stick with cat videos and petting all the dogs I see on leashes around town.

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My Husband is in Trouble


Posted By on Nov 18, 2017

I hate to just go and post this online, but I really don’t know what to do. My family, bless them, are just no help on this issue. They’re all freaking out and worrying and I need someone who can give me some serious advice.

I have to start with some very unfortunate information: my husband and I don’t have insurance. We had it last year, but my husband lost his job (he works in construction) and his new job doesn’t offer insurance until he’s been there for 90 days. He was there for 78. I emphasize “was.”

I emphasize that word because he’s now in the hospital. A beam fell from the house he was building and hit him in the head. He was wearing his helmet (I thank God I told him to be careful about that a thousand times), but he’s still got some serious head trauma. He got rushed to the hospital where they diagnosed a brain injury. They aren’t sure how serious it is. At this very moment, they’re debating whether to put him into a medically induced coma. I left the room to calm down and to write this. Everyone in there is freaking out and my husband is doing such a good job calming them. I’m trying to do the same, but things look so bad.

To start with, I’m worried his company won’t pay for the medical costs. It happened at work, but one of his coworkers said he was walking where he wasn’t supposed to be. I guess he crossed some line or something in an area where there were risks, I wasn’t able to really follow, but I don’t know if that means they’ll refuse to pay for this or not. I don’t know what we’ll do if we have to pay for this. We don’t have much. We sold our house last year when he lost his last job. We don’t have much to sell left. How will we afford to live?

Okay, I’m going to try to avoid thinking of that stuff for now. What I need someone, anyone, out there to do is give me a little advice regarding what I should do. Are there questions I should be asking, things I shouldn’t say (like it was his fault)?

Do I need a lawyer? And if I do, do I need a worker’s compensation lawyer or a brain injury lawyer? Or both?

Anyone who knows anything about this, I appreciate your help. I’m trying to keep track of everything carefully in case it’s important later, but it’s hard to do that when you’re worried about whether your husband is going to make it through the night.

I have to get back now. I just saw the doctor heading to his room. Hopefully, there’s good news. I could use a little good news right now.

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Paternity and the Law


Posted By on Sep 8, 2017

Families often have an issue with confirming the paternity of a child, and the parents can either be married, unmarried, separated or divorced. Paternity law involves legal recognition of the biological father of the child. When the paternity is unknown, genetic testing is generally done to establish this paternity. If the alleged father is trying to disprove his paternity, the mother can file a paternity suit against him so that child support can be obtained.

These paternity issues can arise when there are cases involving child support, but they are also important in areas like custody and visitation, health care, adoption, and inheritance.   The action to establish paternity is a civil proceeding. This proceeding is usually done when one party contests the paternity allegation. The alleged father may want proof that he is the actual father before he agrees to pay any type of financial support. However, the mother can also contest the father’s paternity, like when another man, other than her husband, attempts to gain custody of or visitation rights with a child that he thinks may be his own child.

In many cases, paternity can be established voluntarily when there is no disagreement among the parents. Also, paternity can be established by circumstantial evidence, like when a married man is presumed to be the father of a baby that was born shortly after the marriage to his wife.

When DNA profiling became available, this was an important breakthrough in discovering the paternity of the child. The DNA testing can establish a father’s paternity with over ninety-nine percent accuracy, and it can be done before the child is born. When paternity is established in this way, the father can be ordered to pay child support for his child.

There are cases where the father is not married to the child’s mother. This father will not likely be awarded custody of the child if the mother is providing good care for that child.   However, the father can receive preference over grandparents or prospective adoptive parents.

In the instance where two unmarried persons have a child together, the father needs to sign an ‘Acknowledgement of Paternity’ to be officially declared the father of the child, with all the rights and obligations associated with this role. However, if the father chooses not to sign this document or is prevented from signing it, the court can intervene and enter an order that establishes paternity. This paternity order declares that the child’s father is the legal father.

If there is no official acknowledgment of paternity or the paternity order, the child’s father has no obligation to pay child support. This can cause a financial burden on a single, unmarried mother, so in these types of situations, the paternity order is commonly sought. Likewise, if the father wants to have custody – shared, partial or full – or have visitation rights, he would have to be legally named the father through an acknowledgment of paternity or a paternity order.

Like a lot of family law issues, establishing paternity can be emotionally and financially challenging to all concerned. In these types of cases, it is especially important to seek the counsel of an experienced Family Law attorney. This type of attorney, like Kessler & Solomiany, LLC, can answer your questions and assist you with any court proceedings when required.

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International borders do an excellent job at immediately breaking the commonality of human nature between two people. Borders in the modern world create tense centers of conflict and can be the cause of key international incidents that panic civilizations. Also, due to strict regulations by governments, it can be challenging to apply and receive citizenship in another country other than the one the person is born in. The restrictions placed on granting citizenship are highly enforced and have become a crucial part of current American politics. With passionate rhetoric on both sides of the aisle, immigration status is one of the most discussed topics across all demographics.

In the modern world, a person’s citizenship can determine every possible area of their life. Their country of origin is a key determining factor in their interaction with the world. Certain countries in the world have specific sanctions that keep their citizens on their shores, whereas other countries’ citizens have a plethora of freedom of mobility. The United States is a good example for a country whose citizens can move across the globe with relative ease, but at the same time is extremely restrictive upon the people they allow into the country and even further, who they allow to become naturalized citizens. Many people are familiar with the relationship between the United States Government and Mexican citizens coming to America in hopes of a more bountiful life.

As a result of the focus on immigration in the past U.S. election and the threat of building a wall by Donald Trump and his supporters, tensions with immigration control have been on the rise throughout the country. In many cases, due to new protocols enacted by Trump and his advisors, immigrant families around the country are barbarically torn apart by U.S. Immigration Customs and Enforcement officers. Due to lack of citizenship in the United States, these people have been severely mistreated and in many cases abused by border control officers. If any individual finds themselves in the United States without government clearance, they would be best suited to seek assistance in completing the immigration procedures. This process can be long and intensive for immigrants as many are experiencing English as a second language. They are without their support network, often lack financial security, and have most likely dealt with very traumatic circumstances to reach U.S. soil only to be told they have no place here.

The dehumanization that goes on in the state regulated immigration process can not continue into the 21st century as it only further divides our populations. Hateful rhetoric spewed by right wing institutions must be dealt with at its core to avoid further racism within the country. Much of the U.S. system is widely influenced by public opinion, particularly the misguided views of ranking officials. Native and immigrant children must be able to grow up in a world that is free of immigration restrictions based out of prejudice.

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Marriage Counseling


Posted By on Jul 23, 2017

Though couples often enter marriage wildly in love, a variety of circumstances can change their relationship dynamic over time. Thinking their differences “irreconcilable,” many couples choose to divorce. However, couples willing to rebuild their relationship may benefit from the services of a marriage counselor, who can act as mediator and therapist for both individuals.

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As the marriage counseling expert, Kathleen Snyder, explains, relationships are often complicated by factors including the following:

  • Lack of communication: communication often deteriorates in relationships over time, and a marriage counselor can help pinpoint “how” and “why” this has occurred in the patient’s relationship.
  • Conflict and resentment: when a conflict drags out, it creates a legacy of resentment that needs to be addressed before healing can occur.
  • Drifting apart: as people grow and change, they may find themselves drifting apart from their spouse. Marriage counselors can help draw couples back together by fostering friendship and communication.
  • Affair recovery: affair recovery usually occurs in two phases—recreating security within the relationship and pinpointing the underlying factors that caused the affair to happen in the first place.
  • Differences in parenting style: oftentimes, parents differ in the way that they want to raise their child. A marriage counselor can teach parents how to reconcile their differences by combining teaching and nurturing.
  • Obstacles to sexual intimacy: a marriage counselor can help couples examine the emotion and physical factors that contribute to lack of sexual intimacy
  • Balancing work and family : given technological advancements, many employers expect round-the-clock access to their employees. If an individual always succumbs to this pressure, their spouse (and/or family) can begin to feel lonely and unimportant.
  • Strong emotions: marriage counselors can help pinpoint the source of strong emotions such as anger, anxiety, depression, and grief.

Though these problems are all serious in nature, they don’t have to be permanent. If a couple is willing to invest in nurturing their relationship and working through their differences, a marriage counselor can likely help them make it through the journey.

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